I know I’ve started most of my blog posts with “have you ever”, and this is no exemption, so instead of asking, I’ll just assume majority of us have being in this situation.
You ask your friend “How are you?” and you know the popular random reply is “fine”, but you don’t just want a “fine”, you want something more; like actual facts. You want your friend to “mask-off”; to tell you what’s happening in his/her life at the moment.
Sometimes, we still get a very disappointing, one-worded “fine”.
With the way things are now; with a lot of insecurities and “bottling up”, it seems like everyone has something to hide. So, even you asking the question is hiding something behind the faux “fine” and you expect your friend to have something behind too.
Question is, what if I’m just fine? Nothing bad or turbulent happening in my life at the moment; nothing sweet or cheery to make me super-happy, just me living in the middle of routines.
God! Routines wear me off!
I remember telling one of my friends that my life was stagnant at the moment.
He was like, “Stagnant??!” and it seemed like it had a bad meaning or something. I actually meant my life was just revolving around one circle of routines; eating, sleeping, classes, church, repeat. It felt really exhausting.
I’m just writing to let you know it happens a lot and that something mustn’t be happening at every point in your life.
Everyone has a response to their “fine” phase. People like me just get sad.
There was a day I had to sit and think about why I was sad for no reason. I realized I was just itching to get out of those tiresome, soul-straining routines.
But then, I can’t afford to be ‘just sad’, so I do what some other people will do; I look for something new that interests me. Funny thing is, it could be something as little as getting a new book to read, starting an exercise routine, joining a new music group; you know, just something else.
Or I act like some other people would and understand that life is in phases and sometimes, we just get stuck in the middle of a phase. I mean, it could just be a sign that you’re about to move into a new phase.
Heard of the “Law of diminishing returns”? Being in a phase for quite a while might make you lose a whole lot of interest. I don’t know if it’s a personal opinion or something I got from someone, but I realized that I experience the law of diminishing returns when I’m venturing towards the end of an activity.
So, brace up!
God might just be giving you signs that some interesting is coming to your life; some next phase thingy.
No, you’re not depressed, hurt, hiding some bad experiences or distressed; you’re “just fine”, stagnant, maybe (permit me to use the word), and it’s really okay.